Being the bigger man?
First, a confession is in order. I love Facebook.
For my mom and anyone else who just wants the quick 'n dirty: Facebook is a social networking site where you post notes and photos and all kinds of other stuff about what you're doing and in turn you get to stalk all of your friends. It used to just be for kids in school but recently opened up to the public.
A few weeks ago I got a friend request from a girl whose name I barely recognized, and no details to help me figure it out. I figured we knew each other through high school but couldn't remember too much. So I sent her a detail request, asking how we knew each other. It's been over two weeks now, and I don't know if she's just computer illiterate and / or just doesn't use it much, or if she's avoiding the question because of the answer.
I looked her up in my yearbook and confirmed my suspicions. This girl was a total jerk to me and most of my friends. (Evidence: in her yearbook photo she has horns, a mustache, and a beard. Sign of a jerk if I ever saw one!) I transferred in for my sophomore year (this is a whole story of its own) and pretty much my only friends were other nerds from my nerd classes (advanced math and science, computer science, etc), and my girlfriend and her friends. I guess this girl didn't like nerds, or didn't like me, or didn't like my girlfriend, because all of my memories of her are just total jerkiness.
Right now the ball is in her court, and I guess I'm glad. I don't want to push someone out of my life because of some bad history… and if I've learned anything since high school its that we all change so much. Her information says she's engaged, and she's got a picture up that she's smiling in. She can't be that bad or crazy of a person, can she? Not, still?
So my dilemma is such: Should I just blindly accept her friend request and see what, if anything, comes of it? My guess is I'll never hear a word from her… I'll just be a +1 in the number of her "friends". But that's okay. I wouldn't really mind being used as a +1, as long as I can use her back. Maybe she will have found other people we went to school with that I can find on her friends list and get back in touch with them myself. But if I approve her friend request, then the possibility exists that she will see this. (I have automatic importing of the blog into Facebook as notes because I'm cool like that.)
So if that's the case… I'm sorry, Jenny. It was high school. I was a nerd, you were a jerk. I hope you're not crazy.
For my mom and anyone else who just wants the quick 'n dirty: Facebook is a social networking site where you post notes and photos and all kinds of other stuff about what you're doing and in turn you get to stalk all of your friends. It used to just be for kids in school but recently opened up to the public.
A few weeks ago I got a friend request from a girl whose name I barely recognized, and no details to help me figure it out. I figured we knew each other through high school but couldn't remember too much. So I sent her a detail request, asking how we knew each other. It's been over two weeks now, and I don't know if she's just computer illiterate and / or just doesn't use it much, or if she's avoiding the question because of the answer.
I looked her up in my yearbook and confirmed my suspicions. This girl was a total jerk to me and most of my friends. (Evidence: in her yearbook photo she has horns, a mustache, and a beard. Sign of a jerk if I ever saw one!) I transferred in for my sophomore year (this is a whole story of its own) and pretty much my only friends were other nerds from my nerd classes (advanced math and science, computer science, etc), and my girlfriend and her friends. I guess this girl didn't like nerds, or didn't like me, or didn't like my girlfriend, because all of my memories of her are just total jerkiness.
Right now the ball is in her court, and I guess I'm glad. I don't want to push someone out of my life because of some bad history… and if I've learned anything since high school its that we all change so much. Her information says she's engaged, and she's got a picture up that she's smiling in. She can't be that bad or crazy of a person, can she? Not, still?
So my dilemma is such: Should I just blindly accept her friend request and see what, if anything, comes of it? My guess is I'll never hear a word from her… I'll just be a +1 in the number of her "friends". But that's okay. I wouldn't really mind being used as a +1, as long as I can use her back. Maybe she will have found other people we went to school with that I can find on her friends list and get back in touch with them myself. But if I approve her friend request, then the possibility exists that she will see this. (I have automatic importing of the blog into Facebook as notes because I'm cool like that.)
So if that's the case… I'm sorry, Jenny. It was high school. I was a nerd, you were a jerk. I hope you're not crazy.
starz ~ Aug 4, 2008 at 9:56 PM